Sonntag, 18. September 2016

A belly full of secrets

Dear lovely people of the world,

sometimes I wonder how we got here. How did we get to a society that fully supports fat-shaming, even advertises it? Shaming in general, that is. Doesn't matter if it's about weight or sex or buying things for your own pleasure. Or even cleaning your own living-room. I then proceed to think about historical facts that helped shape how we are and what we do today. Okay, that happened, I will never be able to change the past. But what about the future, what about the present? This gift the world gives us, which we get to unwrap everyday. People always preach "be the change you want to see in the world", but there are more people complaining than people DOING and CHANGING the game. When will you learn that shaming people will not make them change? 
Yes, I am overweight and yes, I love eating and I am responsible for most of the fat that my body contains. But that doesn't mean that I'm unhealthy. And it doesn't mean that you, most likely a skinny person, get to judge me when you only know what you see. You don't get to shame me for my weight OR for the way I gained it. Further down lies the question "Why is it of such interest to you, how or why or that I have a big butt and a big belly?" What's in it for you if I ever lose the weight? Do you think you get to say "I am the reason why she now weighs so and so many pounds less than she wighed three months ago"? Will it make you feel good? DO YOU THINK THAT YOUR SHAMING ME WILL MAKE ME LOSE WEIGHT? As if. You know what it does? It makes me like you less and it makes me question if you even like yourself. Because that's what I do. I love myself, I love my big butt and my belly full of secrets. Yes, I'm not always happy about how I look and that is normal. But you fat-shaming me in front of my friends is never gonna do anything good, never gonna change the game. Start by loving yourself and you will see how it changes not only your view on yourself, but also your view on others. Be the change you want to see in the world. Be kind.

Yours sincerely,
Regenschirmtier ♥